MIRROR: From Imitation to Internalization in LLM Personalization

The demand for personalized LLMs is shifting from style imitation toward content quality. We investigate whether self-distillation can bridge this gap in existing fine-tuning paradigm. To address this limitation, we introduce MIRROR(Meta-personalization by Internalizing Reference-Revealed On-policy Reflections),a novel self-distillation framework that shifts LLM personalization from imitation toward preference internalization. First, we replace reference-token imitation with reference-revealed on-policy self-distillation, aligning the model’s next-token distributions along its own generation trajectories with those of its reference-conditioned self, thereby internalizing user preferences rather than reproducing reference wording. Second, we introduce MIRROR-F, a focal plug-in that augments on-policy distributional alignment with selective supervision over informative reference tokens, thereby strengthening content generation while preserving user-specific expression. Across three personalized generation benchmarks, two model scales, and complementary reference-based and LLM-based evaluations, MIRROR and MIRROR-F achieve leading overall personalization performance and superior text quality, while exhibiting less catastrophic forgetting than SFT-based baselines on three unseen personalized generation tasks. The gains are consistent across model scales and application scenarios, translating to improved performance in LLM personalization tasks. Code is available at https://anonymous.4open.science/r/MIRROR-F.